One of the most difficult things for any woman to have to shoulder is being ignored by the man she loves. It’s horrible when it’s the man you’re currently involved with, but when it’s an ex boyfriend that you’re still desperately in love with, it’s almost unbearable. The mere fact that he refuses to pick up when you call or he lets your text messages and emails go unanswered is heartbreaking. You don’t exactly know what to do, so you likely do what virtually every other woman in your situation does and that’s keep on trying to talk to him. I’m here to tell you to stop the madness. There is a much better way to react when you are being ignored by your ex and it will actually put you back into the driver’s seat in terms of whether or not you two get back together again.
Why Your Ex Boyfriend is Ignoring You
There are generally a few specific reasons why a man will repeatedly ignore his ex girlfriend after the break up. If you can identify why your ex is purposefully avoiding you, it will help you understand and learn to take it much less personally.
Men just aren’t as fond of dealing with their emotions as we are. Many men just need a period of time after a break up to decompress emotionally. They have to work their way through their own emotions and to do so, they need both space and time. If you try and contact your ex boyfriend before he’s gone through this process, he may just intentionally ignore you because he’s not emotionally ready to deal with you.
He’s still resentful about the break up. Perceptions can become very cloudy after a break up has occurred. If you were dumped, you’re probably wondering why your ex boyfriend still seems so upset with you. After all, he’s the one who ended things, right? How he views the end of the relationship may differ greatly from how you view it. Be mindful of the fact that his feelings may run just as deep as yours and the emotional pain you are feeling may be mirrored by him.
He’s trying to move on. There are certain men who can only deal with a break up by moving on very quickly. These are the men who are often caught up in another relationship just weeks after their break up. If your ex has gotten himself involved with another woman, she may be the reason why he’s ignoring you right now. Since his attention is otherwise engaged, he may not view you as important enough to talk to.
Dealing With an Ex Boyfriend Who is Ignoring You
It may feel that the best way to deal with a man who is ignoring you is to demand he stop. That’s one approach you may have already taken but if you have, you already know that it won’t work.
The very best thing you can possibly do right now is to stop trying to get him to talk to you. The man has made it very clear, through his inaction, that he has no intention of breaking no contact at this point. If you continue to throw yourself into his personal space be it through unwanted telephone calls, emails or texts, he’ll change his number, delete your number and never contact you again.
It takes only a day or two for a man to realize that a woman who has been chasing him incessantly, isn’t any longer. That means that if you stop trying to get his attention today, within a few days, you’ll finally have it.
There’s an unspoken message that is conveyed when a woman suddenly stops chasing her ex boyfriend. The message is loud and clear and it screams that she’s no longer interested the way she once was.
It’s your silence that will finally shake your ex boyfriend’s world enough that he’ll want to reach out and talk. Try it for yourself. Stop talking, wait and before long, he’ll be the one racing after you.
If you’re tired of living without your ex boyfriend, there is a simple way to regain his attention. Very specific text messages can reawaken your ex boyfriend’s desire in you so he’ll crave to be with you again. You can learn more about that here.